Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with evils, cause despair, and other harms. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, money, age difference, religious upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affair. I think typically though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a man I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us men of romance, making them “hot wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown separately, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.